You are not empty as long as you are feeling something

Here we go again. Another day, another post 😉

Today’s topic is a special topic for me, and I wanted to bring it on here to simply share my thoughts and reflections with you.

I was going through a very dark period in my life when I got brave enough to reach out to one of my friends and ask for support. This is something I’ve always struggled with. Although I still struggle with asking for help up to this day, I learned that it would be unfair to share great times with my friends but not tough times. The same way I would be happy to help a friend out when needed, I know they would be just as happy to help me out.

So I reached out and we started talking about life, catching up and saying everything and anything. As I was telling my friend about my struggles and how I felt (angry, sad, disappointed, annoyed) she told me that as long as I was feeling something, it was a good sign. She didn’t say that to tell me that what I was feeling then was great. But she made it feel just a bit more normal and human. She reminded me that we need to go through the storm to be able to see the sunshine. And that we are the ones labeling certain feelings or emotions as negative. We often judge ourselves for feeling. We tend to think there is something wrong with us when we feel a certain way. In reality, it is part of life and of the human experience.

I was telling her that I was really in a time of my life where nothing seemed to make sense. Nothing seemed to give me pleasure or satisfaction. I felt empty and never enough. She stopped me there as I was finishing that sentence. She looked me in the eyes and then she said: you are not empty as long as you are feeling something. And that stuck with me for all this time.

It is true. How can we say we are empty when we are full of life, full of emotions? What my friend told me also reminded me of a quote I once read on social media. It said that when we feel empty, in reality, we are the fullest we’ve ever been. The emptiness feeling is actually coming from the fact that we are full of emotions. And because emotions can be overwhelming at times, our bodies simply want to shut down and rest. This quote shifted my perspective on emptiness forever since.

I hope you can learn something from this post today. Maybe you too can remember my friend’s words whenever life gets heavy and you feel like darkness is taking over. Remember that all feelings are beautiful and, as long as you are feeling something, you are not empty. You are alive! No matter what your mind wants you to believe, there is nothing wrong with you, and you are enough, ALWAYS.

Keywords: empty, feeling, emotions, remember, friend